Welcome to the most boring Shabbos of the year!
Hear me out –
We are in the month of Cheshvan. Some called this month Mar Cheshvan, bitter Cheshvan, because in contrast to every other Jewish month, there are no inspiring holidays, no special rituals. Inspiration dies in Cheshvan. Some may say bitter, I prefer boring.
We just read a parsha of which the bulk consists of Eliezer traveling to find a shidduch for Yitzchak. The Torah reports this story not once, but twice, in painstaking detail. Booooring.
And then the main character of the story is Yitzchak. Avraham is the brave and kind revolutionary, Yaakov is the man who overcomes every conceivable challenge, and Yitzchak… Yitzchak does nothing.
He is passive in the Akeidah; he obediently allows his father to bind him up. When it comes to dating, he doesn’t even bother swiping to the right or left, he just sends his servant, Eliezer, to do all the work for him. In next week’s parsha he digs a number of wells – that almost sounds exciting, just that the Torah goes out of its way to inform us that the wells he digs are actually the same exact wells dug by his father. Bo-ring.
You know what else is boring?
Ner Tamid is boring.
There is a new shul opening every few months in Baltimore. And there is something exciting about being ‘new.’ In our backyard there is a minyan called the New Minyan. I heard there’s another shul opening next month called, the Even Newer Minyan (joking). But there are so many new and fresh and exciting Jewish projects and institutions all over this city – which I happen to think is wonderful. Compared to them, an institution that has been around for 70 years – we’re the old minyan, the really old and boring minyan.
So yes, this is the most boring Shabbos of the year, focused on the most boring character, with the most repetition, during the most boring month, in the most boring shul.
Our Sages have a profound take on boring.
There is a Tannaic debate found in the introduction to Ein Yaakov – what is the most important verse in the Torah? One Tanna says it’s Shema, another says it is the verse that speaks of man being created in G-d’s image, yet another says, love your neighbor like yourself. Shimon Ben Pazzi, not a very well-known Tanna, says that the most important verse is, “You shall offer one sheep in the morning, and a second sheep in the afternoon.” What is known as the Korban Tamid, the daily offering. Compared to shema, tzelem Elokim, and loving your neighbor, I would consider a daily sheep as the epitome of baaa-ring. (Sorry)
After quoting the different views, the author of Ein Yaakov declares the opinion of Ben Pazzi to be correct – the most important verse in the Torah is the one that speaks of an offering brought consistently every single day. It is not just the most important verse; it is the essence of Judaism.
Rabbi Sacks explains: “Much of Judaism must seem to outsiders, and sometimes to insiders also, boring, prosaic, mundane, repetitive, routine, obsessed with details, and bereft for the most part of drama or inspiration.”
We can all relate to this. How often do we struggle with Judaism because it doesn’t give us the high and excitement we’re yearning?
Rabbi Sacks continues: “Yet that is precisely what writing the novel, composing the symphony, directing the film, perfecting the killer app, or building a billion-dollar business is, most of the time. It is a matter of hard work, focused attention, and daily rituals. That is where all sustainable greatness comes from.”
Yitzchak may not be a revolutionary or face terrible challenges, but it’s actually much harder to maintain momentum when there is no adrenaline. There may be a lot of repetition in this week’s parsha but the Korban Tamid – which represents repetition – is how we develop new skills and behaviors. Cheshvan may be a month without any special days, but it’s the daily grind that brings out our greatness.
This Shabbos, we are celebrating the engagement of Chana Herzog and Chanan Oshry, we are celebrating the recent birth of a baby girl, Gavriella Esther, to Kochava and Joey Kallan, and the birth and naming of Nova Shiri to Pini and Adrienne Zimmerman. Mazel Tov! All very exciting. These milestones are wonderful and worthy of celebration. But the real joy of marriage is not the exciting engagement party or wedding, it’s the day in and day out, it’s sitting next to your spouse in silence and feeling content, it’s running a household together and always being there for one another. The real joy of parenthood is not the birthday parties. It’s the relationship that develops over years of ups and downs, of hugs and fights and hugs again. Relationships may begin in the state of excitement, but they survive if the parties involved learn the special beauty of boring.
The same is true for a shul. When a shul is around for seven months, that is exciting, but when a shul is around for 70 years, that makes it real. To overcome the inevitable dips of attrition and not fold, to allow for new cultures and social trends to slowly shape a community, to not lose sight of the goal – of being a center and community for Jewish growth for that many years, Ner Tamid like the Korban Tamid speaks to the essence of Judaism.
Before I joined Ner Tamid I would alternate between 4 or five shuls. Sometimes I wanted a little more singing, I went to shul A, sometimes I wanted a more inspiring sermon, I went to shul B, sometimes I didn’t want to see anyone I knew, I went to shul C. It kept things exciting. But for the past 12 years, I have gone to Ner Tamid almost every day of my life, day in and day out. One could argue that it’s boring being part of the same shul for so many years.
But I would disagree.
Though we have maintained the same character over the years, the shul has more than doubled in size over the past few years. At the same time, we have held on to that sense of community, and even family, and that is something I deeply value.
Far more importantly, though we continue to focus on the core values that we focused on 12 years ago, the spiritual engagement has tripled, quadrupled, and more. Weekday minyan is no longer a struggle. From one weekly class to many daily classes, from a handful of people studying Torah to a majority of the congregation doing so daily. The davening gets more and more energized by the month. I have grown together with the shul community and I feel like it’s a part of who I am.
It may be boring to be a member of the oldest shul in the area, it may be boring to be in the same shul for so long, it may not feel as exciting as being somewhere else. But boring, our sages teach us, is where greatness is found. I am grateful to be here every day of the year, I am grateful that each and every one of you have been a part of this, a part of something so exceptionally great. And I am excited to continue to grow our beloved shul together for many years to come.
As you know, tomorrow is our big fundraiser. Ner Tamid has been a rock in the lives of so many, good times, bad times, and everything in between, providing consistent reminders of our values and what we should aspire to. So if I could ask each and every one of you to participate in whatever way you can – even a few dollars. Let’s invest in our beloved shul ensuring that this boring old place will continue to inspire, comfort, and lead for decades to come.